Giving Deep Gratitude for Mothers

Here we are on the eve of Mother’s Day weekend. It’s about as American as apple pie … celebrating mothers. Then again, it’s fraught with turmoil. There are the mothers who failed us (just ask my son, John, … and then keep in mind that he’s only 18-years-old and it is his absolute job right now to hate me with a passion. He’ll get over himself, … at least a mom can hope). But that’s just scratching the surface of things. Not for John and me … no, no, no … I’m full of ego, just like the next mom trying to launch a kid into this crazy world of ours right now, but no, I mean the issues with Mother’s Day …

  • There are the women who wish they were moms, but can’t get pregnant or find their way through the adoption process.
  • There are the women who are grieving the loss of a child.
  • There are the women who are mothering another person’s child.
  • There are the women who are mothering their very own mothers, or their spouse’s mother.
  • There are the women who have kids, but are sick with worry over who their kids appear to be, … at the moment, at least (it’s the ‘job’ of moms to always hold out deep hope for their littles).
  • There are the men who have had to be moms for various reasons … those men who resent the heck out of this … and the ones who love it (except for the tragic reality of how damn hard it is to be ‘a mom’).
  • And, what about those of us who had moms who didn’t live up to who we needed them to be … or maybe worse yet, wanted them to be. Or the moms we loved with all our hearts, but are no longer here with us …

Yes, Mother’s Day is fraught with heavy emotions, … not just light, loving, sweet ones.

Furthermore, our Capitalistic society has capitalized (pun intended) on our emotional fragility around this holiday … insisting that we are a ‘most terrible child’ if we don’t get just the right gift for mom … which is what exactly?!

My personal favorite is the year that John presented me with a quarter and offered to take me out for a pizza dinner … just what every 5-year-old little boy wants to eat and no mother ever wants for Mother’s Day, for God’s sake. Especially after leading worship and preaching at a church that is too small to have a kids’ program so you have to stand up front in of a group of people while holding the Bible over your head as your toddler tries to remove the lapel mic off your robe (of course this is completely a figment of my imagination … it never happened … of course not. My dear, nearly-perfect child would never do that).

Okay, it did happen. And maybe that’s why my sweet son knew he needed to make up for it. I was a single mom and he knew he needed to do something (there was no dear old dad to begrudgingly or otherwise take care of things, so John offered what he had on hand). Well, he’s smart … he had more then 25 cents in his piggy bank, I’m sure, but he’s a shrewd bargainer and his adorable self might just have bought us some pizza from a very tired, single mom waitress who couldn’t resist the cuteness of the whole thing. I mean given different circumstances, I personally would have been all over that.

So, what are we to do, my people?!

Tread lightly, please. Offer kindness. Love each other. Take a ‘long, loving look at the Real’ … which is to say that we could all use a little benefit of the doubt. We’re vestiges of God, with skin on, which makes it a little hard to see how awesome we all really are. Or, if we aren’t awesome on this particular day, or in this particular season, we’re at least trying our best, right? Every last one of us, … with whatever cards we’ve been dealt at the moment. So, give even the ‘idiot-mom,’ the ‘raging-crazy-woman-mom,’ the ‘auntie-who-is-not-the-best-mom-you-ever-could’ve-hoped-for-mom,’ the ‘dad who has a deer-in-the-headlights-look as he tries to be a mom,’and Your-Very-Own-Mom (like her or not, today) … give them all a little love this weekend. You’ll feel better … and so will she/he/them.

Peace out for now, my dear ones.

May the 4th be with you …

And also with you 😉

That’s what we’ll say in church tomorrow … just some preparation in case you choose to join us. Actually, we’ll pass the Peace (“May the peace be with you”), but that’s a Force too, so it’s kinda one and the same. Sort of.

I just came across a sweet photo of my son and me (see below) … taken about 14 years ago … and it brings me great Peace/Force. John has always been a Force in my life, bringing good luck, joy, strength, and immense peace, … since the very first moment I knew I was pregnant with him. A pretty sweet thing to remember in these waning days of life before the Big Launch (to college, etc. etc.).

John Benjamin Morris announced his arrival in Grand Fashion … my water broke just minutes after I descended the stairs from a chancel in a church after blessing a dear clergy friend as she started a new phase in her ministry. It was an auspicious arrival announcement, and truly things have never been the same … at least for me. I’m so grateful.

I hope this serves as a brief invitation to remember your own beautiful beginnings on this early evening in early spring.

Peace out.

Hang tight, my peeps …

Well, what a day, … what a week, … what a time we’re in. If you follow me (Ha!), it’s been awhile since I’ve chimed in on anything …

I have a friend at church who reminded me recently that it is smart to listen, more then talk. I’ve been binging on music from the musical Hamilton lately and there’s a character in the show that says the same thing to Hamilton … so apparently this is age-old advice (“Talk less, smile more”). I agree, … except that I’m a preacher for a living, so that doesn’t work very well. Lord help me. Lord, help us all.

What are we to do? We’re starving for some positive attention, most of us, anyway, … I think. If we find a kind soul willing to listen, don’t we want to talk? I mean we’re weathering a really crazy world right now. A very crazy world. Extroverts, and introverts too, need to process things a bit with kind, trust-worthy souls … hopefully you have a few in your personal world.

I was talking with a friend the other day on the phone and for some reason I thought of God (you know the old grandfather-type in the sky) and I said I think He’s sitting up there from on high looking down on us like a bunch of ants, or cars (you know, like when you are in an airplane that is descending or ascending and you can make out some ‘individual’ entities). I picture God looking down from above and thinking to Himself (or Herself), “Oh dear God, what have I set into motion by creating these little creatures?! Look at how violently they are crashing into each other! Oh no, what did I do? How can I help? This is a disaster!!”

Well, I (Lisa) can only pray fervently that God has a plan for this … for all of us. I am a minister after all and I do have to have a little faith. I try anyway. Most days.

My beautiful son is 18 years old. It’s a travesty. I hate it … I know he needs to grow up and really I love seeing how amazing he is as a young man, but it’s hard and scary to let a kid go. So, being the feisty mom that I am I reminded him last night that even though he is 18 and even though he is about to move across country and go to college, he still doesn’t know ANYTHING. Like the good young man I raised him to be he said, “Yes, I know, mom.” Of course he knows plenty of things and I know that he knows things that I don’t understand … truth be told he can run circles around me. Well, only physically, but that’s because I have a hip injury from a fall at work … but I won’t go down that rabbit hole.

Truth is … we all need some good friends, a Good God, and a whole heck of a lot of faith if we’re going to make our way though this tight spot we’re in. So hang on friends. And look for friends anywhere they might come. Just look at these cuties I met along my drive home yesterday. Notice their eagerness, and dare I say wisdom? They know they need connection. Maybe they think I have food, … but still there’s wisdom in that, right?!

Peace out for now.

Epiphany … and an Insurrection Anniversary?!

I awoke this morning to the interesting realization that the Christian celebration of Epiphany (on January 6th) is the same day that we in the U.S. are now recognizing the first anniversary of an insurrection attempt on our Capital building (at least half of our country would attest to this anyway). What a very odd pairing of events!

Epiphany might just be my favorite Christian holiday … a ‘minor’ one, which is less known, because it’s not commercialized. Epiphany is the day when Christians remember a group of Wise Men whose travels to find God’s promise took them far from home to an unlikely place. They found Him, the Christ child, in a very plain manger. Not only did they have to search diligently to reach Him, but once there, they had to overlook a messy and slightly obstructed view of this Gift, who would forever change the world. Think of a barn full of straw, smelly animals, and a mangy gaggle of shepherds and other local worshippers.

The invitation for followers of Jesus today is the same … to look for Light amidst the darkness that surrounds us daily … Covid, environmental disasters, warring nations, interpersonal violence, and yes, our collective history now includes what happened at the U.S. House of Congress in Washington D.C. on January 6, 2021.

As a clergy woman, I feel it’s my vocational responsibility to look to the big picture as much as I am humanly able, and to extend ‘grace and mercy’ as well. This understanding led me to review news stories today from the Left and Right, the Top and Bottom, and all Sides in between. Not entirely surprisingly (now that I’ve been on this faith journey for many decades) the Holy Spirit allowed me to see some truth in the varied opinions of people across this country. For example, as I watched (in horror!) video clips of Americans breaking glass and storming a secularly ‘sacred space’ in our capitol city, I heard a rioter say: “This country belongs to US, not just YOU!” And it gave me pause. Because, this is true, and biblically aligned. Jesus came to topple the systemic powers of this world, the leaders of which so often forget they are called to serve the common person. On other occasions, many of us ‘commoners’ would argue that increasingly our political leaders seem to forget this central call. 

Now, Jesus wouldn’t condone the violence that erupted a year ago today, but he did understand what would lead people to express themselves in such a way. A human person, much less a community full of them, can only hold so much pain. The Rev. Nadia Boltz Weber expresses this well when she says, “I’m not saying we should put our heads in the sand, I’m saying that if your circuits are overwhelmed there’s a reason and the reason isn’t because you are heartless, it’s because there is not a human heart on this planet that can bear all of what is happening right now.”) Jesus knew our human pain … and he helped, time and again, heal that pain by removing obstacles to our individual and collective healing over and over and over again.

So, where does this leave us? I think we have the opportunity to reset our own personal intentions (how fitting, at the start of a new year!). To look for the Light. To be the Light. To welcome the Light in others. This Light can be found “in the words and actions of many who are following Jesus, loving neighbors, and working for reconciliation in a wide array of often-unacknowledged ways. Protecting the vulnerable. Speaking the truth. Befriending the lonely. Listening deeply. Choosing tenderness and compassion. [We] just have to remember where to look,” (quoting the Rev. Christopher Henry, Senior Pastor, Second Presbyterian Church, Indianapolis, Indiana, who inspired much of this article).

The Epiphany story reminds us that in spite of the provocations of a fearful king (King Herod) with terrifyingly violent plans (to murder all infants in Bethlehem in an attempt to get rid of Jesus), the Wise Men kept their eyes on the star. They knew where to look, and they knew how to respond (by refusing to follow Herod’s command to tell him the Christ child’s location, and instead, kept that to themselves and took another road to their remote homes).

It’s so common these days to ask the question, “Are we doomed?” As an ordained Presbyterian pastor, I’m vocationally obligated to look for Light. And so I say, “It’s out there … have courage and hope.” These two virtues must go together. It takes courage to remain hopeful. And without hope, it is impossible to speak or act with courage.

For the Wise Men of old seeking God’s promise, “the glimmer of a distant hope gave them the courage to journey on, to journey through, to keep looking. For a pastor, the embodied hope of fellow travelers, the sturdiness of ancient words, the beauty of worship, gives courage to embody the call to ministry.

Hope and Courage. Faith’s answers to fear and despair. They insist on a different path forward. A path toward nothing less than the reconciliation of the world.

Keep looking for the Light.

Keep making it more visible and pervasive in your words and in your actions.” 

And, remember that the Light of the World is with you today, and always!!

Just a little levity, but Light can be found just about anywhere … if we’re willing to look!

A Light Shines in the Darkness

This homily was preached for Fairfax Community Church on January 2, 2021

John 1:1-5, 14

“In the beginning was the Word,

and the Word was with God,

and the Word was God.

All things came into being through him,

and without him, not one thing came into being.

What has come into being in him was life

and the life was the light of all people.

The light shines in the darkness

and the darkness did not overcome it.

And the Word became flesh and lived among us

and we have seen his glory,

the glory as of a father’s only son,

full of grace and truth.”

This is the Word of God.

Every time I read these words, 

I feel I should sit in silence 

and let them reverberate in my heart and mind.

I think these may be my favorite verses in all of Scripture, 

and anything that follows, 

surely pales in comparison. 

But a preacher preaches,

and so I’ll ignore my inclination for just a few moments.

John’s gospel opens with lofty, abstract concepts: 

light, glory, grace, and truth.

The poetic nature of his introduction 

accentuates the loftiness of these ideals.

These are lovely, big ideas, …

and, thankfully, he grounds them in the Word …

who was with God and who was God …

in the other words Jesus Christ.

The Word became flesh and lived among us

and we have seen his glory …

full of grace and truth.

In Jesus we come to know this unknowable God 

in whom we live and move and have our being.

It is in the Incarnation of Jesus that we experience God,

even as he surprisingly comes to us as a vulnerable human baby.

My favorite Christmas book is  The Littlest Angel, by Charles Tazewell.

The story is about a young angel snatched out of life 

and ushered to the pearly gates far too young.

As you might expect of a 4-year-old boy, he wrecks havoc in heaven

being terribly unhappy away from his earthly family and activities.

After pages describing his heart wrenching attempts to adjust to heaven,

an Understanding Angel helps provide 

what will calm this Littlest Angel’s soul.

It’s a rough unsightly wooden box 

that the Littlest Angel left under his bed at home.

What was in it?

“Well, there was a butterfly with golden wings, 

captured one bright summer day on the hills above Jerusalem. 

And a sky-blue egg from a bird’s nest in the olive tree 

that stood to shade his mother’s kitchen door.

Yes, and two white stones, found on a muddy river bank, 

where he and his friend had played like small brown beavers.

And at the bottom of the box, a limp, tooth-marked leather strap, 

once worn as a collar by his morel dog,

who died as he lived, in absolute love and infinite devotion.”

Possession of this box finally brings the Littlest Angel peace. 

With no angst in his soul the book almost becomes mundane 

until we learn that Jesus is to be born on Earth.

All the angels in heaven 

prepare bright, sparkling, magnificent gifts for the Christ child.

The Littlest Angel, 

unable to think of anything more special,

gifts Baby Jesus with his very un-flashy wooden box. 

Setting it amongst all the glimmering gifts from all the other angels 

he immediately becomes embarrassed and seeks to remove it 

from the mountain of shimmering boxes,

but he’s too late and with tears of anguish streaming down his little face 

he hears God say:

“Of all the gifts of all the angels, 

I find that this small box pleases Me most. 

It’s contents are of the Earth and of people, 

and My Son is born to be King of both. 

These are the things My Son, too, will know and love and cherish 

and then, regretful, will leave behind when His time on Earth is done. 

I accept this gift in the Name of the Child, Jesus, 

born of Mary this night in Bethlehem.”

At this, the Littlest Angel’s wooden box 

began to glow with a radiant brilliance, 

rose up into the sky, 

and became the shining star of Bethlehem 

with its beckoning light over the stable where Jesus was born.

On this 2nd day of 2022, I invite us all into a time of reflection.

We have here circular pieces of cardboard,

one for each of you,

along with magazines, scissors, and glue.

[Those of you at home will likely be able to gather these items 

or can probably get some from church at a later time.

There’s nothing significant about the circles …

they are just a nice base to work on].

I’ll invite you to take some supplies 

and then we’ll spend 10 minutes or so in silence as we work.

Leaf through a magazine or two 

and tear out any images or words that stand out to you.

You don’t need to know why they do …

you might be surprised by what draws you.

That’s okay.

Maybe this is Spirit speaking to you 

with some small nugget of wisdom, some small gift of awareness.

I’ll let you know when 5 minutes have passed 

and if you like, you might choose to start cutting and pasting 

your words and images onto your circle. 

Many of you might appreciate much more time than just 10 minutes …

there is no pressure to finish this during today’s worship.

This is only for you, 

and if you’re so inclined, 

you might continue to work on it this coming week,

or even on and off during the month of January.

Ultimately, I invite you to look for what you might be encouraged 

to bring to life in this new year, based on what has attracted you.

Because you too,

each one of you,

are Words made flesh.

Each one of you have lofty concepts in you …

Love, compassion, justice, truth … 

and you grace all who know you with an incarnated, full-of-life experience 

of these otherwise unknowable virtues.

And God rejoices in witnessing the person you are

God’s child.

God rejoices in seeing how you have lived into your unique self

and will continue to do so in 2022.

Thanks be to God. 

Amen.

Blue Christmas

I awoke feeling blue this morning. It’s a feeling I’ve known plenty in my life, but I found it unexpected when I arose today. There’s been a lot of change, even disruption during the last couple of months, but I largely feel hopeful with the ‘new thing’ God seems to be doing in my world. “So why am I blue?” I thought to myself.

I made some tea and lit a candle and meditated on that for a bit. Being receptive to an answer is not generally an easy posture for me to take. I’m much better at telling God what I need then listening for the still small voice that might be quietly, but fervently, knocking on the door to my heart, or head, or soul. And listening, when it means tending to a tender emotion is all that much more unpleasant. But, it’s necessary. Or so that’s what everyone says.

My blueness on this particular day seems attached to some unconscious material from my dreams last night, along with a recently broken relationship … oh, and throw in a little family drama … I guess being blue makes some sense. And that’s about as deep as I care to go being receptive this morning. It’s a start.

It’s not uncommon to feel blue during the holiday season, although it is somewhat uncommon to feel safe admitting it to others. With so much red and green gracing our homes, businesses, institutions and shops, blue doesn’t seem to fit in (and no I don’t mean Hanukkah, although some of my Jewish friends might disagree as Christmas still clearly takes over most of our  environments here in America at this time of year). 

But blue is actually the liturgical color of Advent. While we often mean that we are sad or grieving when we say we are ‘blue,’ in the Church, blue is the color of hopeful anticipation. This is the time of year when we once again await the arrival of a baby born in a manager, One who will forever turn our world upside down in a most beautiful way. 

A quote I can’t quite remember and don’t know who to attribute to comes to mind … “But the Word is sad before it is glad.” And it strikes me that this is rather biblical. That first Christmas was likely very blue, in our common nomenclature way of understanding. An unwed pregnant female teen riding a donkey in the cold and dark only to find no room at the inn when she and her fiancé first arrive at their long awaited destination. I wouldn’t have wanted to be Mary that day. Or Jospeh … presumably he walked most of the way, leading a young woman bearing a child he had no part in creating and yet was humbling claiming as family. How uncomfortable is that? It sounds like a pretty interpersonally messy experience, made all the more challenging by a world not welcoming them with warmth and hospitality.

This year, as last, has brought an unbelievable amount of loss to people on a global scale. Many come to this ‘joyous time of year’ feeling almost no joy. Can we admit this when this describes us? Can we allow it in our friends? Or how about that stranger honking at you in the street, or yelling at the cashier? Making room for challenging emotions or the people feeling them is certainly uncomfortable. It requires being vulnerable, trusting those around us, and the God who speaks quietly into our lives and promises to see us through the hard times, just as the good ones. Taking that open stance is risky business. It means being willing to be uncomfortable. Are we willing? Hear an invitation to do so in Rumi’s poem The Guest House:

“This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. 

A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!

Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of it’s furniture,

still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.”

Can we trust Rumi’s message, heed its call? Can we allow ourselves to be blue if that’s how we are? Will it help us to do so? 

Maybe the Virgin Mary can be our guide. When presented with a reality most unpleasant (she’s going to bare a child … when she’s an unmarried child herself … what will her parents say? And Joseph? And the towns people?), she ultimately says, “Let it be. Let it be as you say God. I will accept this new reality, the one I am currently standing in, the one You seem to be presenting me with.” Maybe this is the key … letting be what is and allowing the feeling to pass through us so there is room for new ones within the Inn of our soul.

Peace and grace to you this day.

Winter Solstice … from Darkness to Light

It’s a universal need, it seems. We can feel it in our bones, if we are paying attention. The Winter Solstice is celebrated in so very many traditions. Dwali, Hannukah, Advent … and it’s movement towards Epiphany. We are in the dark this time of year, and our religious traditions invite us to remember that we aren’t stuck here … the Light is coming. And NOW is the time to celebrate it’s re-entrance!

What does that look like for YOU this year? Something to give thought too, for what we focus on expands, as Abraham’s Law of Attraction promises. We need to condition our eyes to look for it. “Wait for it … WAIT for it,” as a friend of mine often quips. The Light is coming. The availability of Covid vaccines (at least the start of distribution for those deemed most in need)? Your workplace is finally finding it’s rhythm and calling you back to work? The scientifically endorsed idea that we may be able to start towards ‘normal’ (or at least be somewhat beyond the current context of mass susceptibility to the Covid virus) come next fall/winter? What do you look forward to at this time?

You might have to dig deep. You had time to clean out the cupboards and you’re more organized than you ever thought possible? You’ve found, after plenty of kurfluffles, that you actually LIKE hanging out with your teenage children … and more importantly they LIKE hanging out with you? Maybe your priorities are super clear and you’ve had plenty of time to practice saying “NO!” to imagined, unwelcomed invitations?

Look for the light. Wait for it … WAIT for it … here it is!!

RR 2.0: Reverend Robechek’s thoughts on the Religious Reformation in 2020

2020 has been a very memorable year. It started for me, just 10 days in … with my 50th birthday. I celebrated that evening with a massive crowd of 12 or so friends (I’m an introvert) gathered around food and drink, with love and friendship present in spades. It was a perfect celebration. Initially, I had felt pressured to do something a bit more ‘grand’ (skydiving, for example). But in the end, I settled on starting my sixth decade (Yes? Gulp!) with this group of local friends. Just to make the year a bit more splashy, however, I decided that I would also aim to have 50 small parties over the course of the ensuing year (a special dinner with a friend or a weekend away with my sister would count toward this objective and fit my style much better than skydiving, which frankly holds no appeal). RR 2.0 … a reinvention of myself, the Reverend Robechek. 

No, no, no. I’m really not that self-absorbed, I was just setting the context. Actually, RR 2.0 really stands for a second iteration of the great Protestant Reformation, or what I am calling the Religious Reformation 2.0. This is a massive event we are collectively experiencing, but it’s likely to be experienced more like the melting icecaps than the SIP (Station in Place) orders we suddenly faced in March of this year due to the Covid-19 Pandemic. As such, RR 2.0 hasn’t gotten the needed press. But, it should be getting more air time, in my (not always so) humble opinion.

Much like the 2.0 version of the Civil Rights movement this year (a second major attempt at addressing what was started in the 1960s), the 2020 Religious Reformation (RR 2.0) may well further the Reformation of the 1500-1600s, which changed the world in massive ways. That original Reformation started on October 31, 1517, when a German theology professor named Martin Luther nailed 95 Theses to the door of Wittenberg’s Castle Church. His academic rebellion against the Roman Catholic Church (for selling indulgences to poor souls seeking an absolution of sins) became anything but just a heady exchange of differing viewpoints. I’m not sure I can pinpoint an exact start date for the start of RR 2.0; it’s been blossoming for some time now, and I think we will be experiencing aftershocks for a long time to come.

Take a look at this video by #Ascolta. I find it powerful, mesmerizing, ominous and hopeful. Turn off the lights, increase the screen size on your device and be prepared to be drawn in. Hang with the tough parts … and see where/how you might be called to partner more fully with your Creator (“Our obligations are mutual, just like they’ve always been”).

Bearing with Each Other in Love

This sermon was preached for the San Francisco Presbytery meeting on November 10, 2020

Ephesians 4:1-6

I therefore, 

the prisoner in the Lord, 

beg you to lead a life worthy of the calling to which you have been called, 

with all humility and gentleness, 

with patience, 

bearing with one another in love, 

making every effort to maintain the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. 

There is one body and one Spirit, 

just as you were called to the one hope of your calling, 

one Lord, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all, 

who is above all,

and through all,

and in all.

Bearing With One Another in Love

I don’t know if any of you have noticed this, 

but I’ve been seeing a lot of people who are on edge lately?

It’s curious, isn’t it? 😉

I mean, we’ve only had to collectively endure a few things like

A deadly, world-wide pandemic,

Massive unemployment,

Unrest due to continued (even exacerbated) racial injustice,

And, a contentious national election in our severely divided country.

It seems our faith should be holding us all together a little better, doesn’t it?

Of course, I am speaking tongue and cheek.

2020 has been a loooong year indeed.

Our patience, as individuals and an entire nation, 

has been continually challenged for months on end.

Many of you who serve as church Pastors have had to 

ramp up to speed quickly on how to use technology to

lead worship, make pastoral visits, and run meetings.

Those of you who are Chaplains

have had to get accustomed with 

praying for patients while standing outside of their hospital room, 

and meeting families over Zoom.

And you Elders, and those in specialized ministries of all kinds, 

I know you’ve had massive adjustments to make as well.

None of us have escaped the challenges

this year has invited us to deal with, 

… and gracefully, if at all possible.

And so, sitting with tonight’s scripture passage from Ephesians, 

is probably a good exercise, 

a helpful practice, 

an honorable devotion for us.

Of course, it invites us into yet other challenges …

Having humility, 

gentleness,

patience, 

unity.

Bearing with one another in love.

That’s the phrase that stuck with me this week.

Bearing with each other in love.

We’re gathered here together this evening

with like-minded folks 

who have all ‘said yes’ to this call we are in, 

as individuals and as a Presbytery.

We were never promised it would be easy.

If you are at all like me, 

and have a tendency to sometimes say yes before you’ve really 

thought it through fully, 

or sat with,

or prayed about,

the potential outcomes of your decisions, 

then my heart really goes out to you!

Following through on things that are ‘right’ is hard enough!

Forcing yourself to follow through on things

that maybe you shouldn’t have agreed to

is really hard.

I’ve had days over the years when I’ve had to pick up the phone 

and call one of my close clergy friends to ask the question: 

“Can you remind me why I said yes to all of this?”

Most days it just takes a few moments 

and these dear ones have set me back on track, 

righted me on my feet, 

or listened patiently while I expressed a few raw emotions.

I’m deeply thankful for that.

I’m also deeply thankful for God,

who claimed me long before I had any idea what that meant. 

I’m deeply thankful for Jesus,

who weathered all of this before me. 

And, I am deeply grateful for the Holy Spirit 

who dutifully clings to my side during each of my days,

and all the moments in between.

It is far from easy, my friends, to bear with one another in love right now … 

… at least consistently, with all people, all the time.

It means finding room in your heart for those who voted unlike you did, 

for those who cut you off in traffic or yelled at you in the grocery line. 

It means not just putting up with

your irritable church members and scared patients. 

It means extending yourself time … and time … and time again, 

to be the big person in the situation. 

And, if like me, you sometimes think, “Hey, I don’t want that role anymore!” 

then take a deep breath, 

ground yourself for a few moments 

and remember that not only did you say yes to this calling you are in, 

but more importantly remember Who it is that walks with you on this path 

and throughout your entire life’s journey. 

The One who picks you up no matter how many times you might stumble or fall. 

The One who looks at you with love even in your grumpiest moments. 

The One who believes in you, even (or especially?) when you don’t believe in yourself. 

And in that peaceful moment, 

that you have created for yourself, 

repeat the refrain … 

I will bear with you, 

(this person in front of me), 

… and I will do so with love. 

I will do this because One who is far more patient and loving 

is already doing so. 

And I’ve been called to be God’s co-creator in this life. 

I will bear with you in love.

Thanks be to God.

Amen.

Heart Full Souls

November 2, 2020 – All Souls Day

We just celebrated Halloween, All Saints Day, and Dia de los Muertos or All Souls Day. These holidays are marked by remembering our ancestors and all the saints who have gone on ahead of us. We also fell back an hour (due to the end daylight savings time) and entered the darkest part of our year. Of course, 2020 has been rather ominous for more than seven months. Collectively, we’ve had quite a time of it as we’ve witnessed ‘life as we know it’ cease to exist. 

A world-wide Covid-19 pandemic, along with the resulting disruptions to nearly every aspect of our lives. Millions of deaths from this virus that none of us knew about less than a year ago. Unthinkable numbers of jobs lost, unemployment and financial despair. Racial injustices that reached a breaking point and sparked thousands of protests across the US and the world. And here we are now, a tragically divided American country facing a very critical national election tomorrow. Many of us are perpetually living at home in our pajamas, with angst and fear as constant companions.

One of my dearest friends used to wear a gold pendant around her neck with the following inscription: Fear is the Absence of Faith. When fear reared its frightful head in her mind, her necklace served as a reminder that faith conquers fear. Always. We might need a regular reminder and a few good friends standing by our sides, but faith, along with its companion love, unfailingly wins. This 2020 All Souls Day marks more than 10 years without Deea at my earthly side. Thankfully, she still hovers pretty close and whispers â€˜have Faith, not Fear’ when I most need to hear it.

The most repeated phrase in the Bible is ××œ תפחד , which if you don’t read biblical Hebrew[1] means Fear Not. I think there’s a very good reason ‘Fear Not’ is repeated so often. Like maybe because fear runs rampant on this Earth, what with illness, famine, environmental disaster, and heartbreak always at someone’s door, if not at our very own. And so, knowing our human frailties, God and Jesus, along with angels and archangels tell us ‘Fear Not’ over and over and over in scripture. 

In an effort to help stamp this important message on our hearts, where Love reigns supreme, I am taking this perfect opportunity to call Heart Full Souls together at the launch of www.heartfullsouls.com. It takes friends (as well as family, villages, towns, cities, organizations, companies, churches, civic groups, and … well, you get the idea) to hold onto our deepest selves in these trying times. Whether you come here full of chutzpah or utterly depleted, may this be a home (albeit a virtual one) for your soul … today and in the weeks, months and years to come!

Love,

Lisa


[1] Lucky for you, this Presbyterian clergywoman had to learn it in seminary

Business Relationships During Covid-19

In April 2020, our world plunged into a scramble. For anyone not living in a very remote and deep cave, you know that by April, Americans had been confined to their homes for a number of weeks due to the pandemic. Our unexpected ‘vacation’ from work came to an end and we had to find ways to get back to business. For those of us fortunate enough to have work easily transferable to an online format, Zoom became our new conference room.

Thankfully, video conferencing platforms had taken a foothold in advance of the pandemic shutdown. But now the need to use this venue exploded exponentially. We all needed to become experts, and fast. Anytime a new routine gets established in such rapid-fire circumstances, challenges inevitably crop up. We can’t anticipate the many issues that will arise and commonly agreed upon rules are slow to manifest. Enter poor Zoom etiquette. 

Now this may not seem terribly important. After all, Ms. Manners is clearly out of vogue (have you noticed how many of us go to the grocery store in our pajamas? Our standards for professionalism have lowered considerably!). But, etiquette, commonly agreed upon rules, and the like are generally developed for deeper reasons.

You see, in the midst of our explosion of online meetings, we’ve failed to notice the many ways that trust, which is critical for relationships, is being eroded at a rapid pace. Beyond the trouble of missed connections, lagging and glitchy video, and forgetting to turn on (or off!) our audio, many of us are employing practices that are getting in the way of trust. Think for a minute about virtual backgrounds (do you trust that you are speaking only to the person you see on your screen?). Or, how does it feel when someone’s video turns off mid-meeting (are they still there)? What about noticing your colleague multi-tasking when you are in the middle of making a critical presentation (are you and your thoughts not important enough to hold their attention)?

Yes, etiquette has its place. And, so does confession. That may not be a natural segue for you, but as an ordained Presbyterian minister, it is for me. Let me explain. 

Since the vast majority of Americans are now ‘spiritual but not religious,’ confession, like so much religious ‘dogma,’ is a “baby that has been thrown out with the bath water.” I would argue that this is a huge societal problem. Confession is a way to acknowledge our deepest realities. To put voice to matters we’d prefer not utter to ourselves, much less another human being. And to do so without fear of judgment. Or at least, that is what it is designed to do. When your grandmother couldn’t talk with your grandfather about something, the natural place for her to go was to her priest or rabbi. Maybe just getting the issue off her chest was enough. Or maybe her pastor offered a thought that helped her step into a necessary conversation.

Now, post-church membership, we take our troubles to our therapist. Most of us no longer live intentionally in a religious community and don’t have the benefit of being held by a group larger than our families or friend groups. Sometimes this is a good thing, which is what caused the departure from religious communities in the first place. But, it can also leave us swimming in an overly individualistic society, at times drowning in our own pools of freedom from community.

In a Presbyterian worship service, one of the first things that happens is confession. It is said corporately (all together … a written confession that meets us (as an individual) exactly where we are some weeks, and not so much on others), followed by a period of silence for personal confessions to be prayed by each worshipper. The point is to clear our conscious first. The flow of worship is to 

  • Come as we are.
  • Acknowledge where we are.
  • Be forgiven for not being our best selves.
  • Be reminded how much we are surrounded by God.
  • Be called to try again to be the people we were created to be, namely individuals that bring love and healing into our world. 

Sounds like a decent way to live life, with the intrinsic benefit of building and growing trust … in God, in ourselves, in our families and in work environments. Maybe a new practice of confession would benefit our business circles? Something to consider …

Etiquette, Confession, and Covid-19

I remember the first time I was sitting at dinner with friends when a progressive friend of mine picked up her gigantic cell phone. I didn’t yet have one, not being an early technology adopter, but I did have an opinion about what happened next. My friend answered her phone and proceeded to speak with the person on the other end of the line, rather than forgo the interruption and face the 6 people currently sitting in a restaurant having dinner with her. What?! How rude!!! It struck me then, and often has in the years to come, that we need to establish some new etiquette for our new (at the time) cell-phone reality. 

Well, here we are again. We’re 6 months into transferring most of our professional and personal lives onto video calls … a safeguard in the midst of this Covid-19 environment in which we now live. We weren’t prepared, and (chalk it up to the maturity of my now 50 years on the planet), etiquette is actually the least of our worries. We don’t have time for such niceties. Now we are dealing with life and death matters, and substance is where it is at. Forget considering whether we are being thoughtful; let’s move on to our communication effectiveness and the resulting impact of our words and actions.

But, maybe etiquette is designed not only to be polite, but also to address deep seated human needs. Like the courtesy of being seen for example, or establishing and nurturing interpersonal trust. Forgive me, but I’m a preacher, and as a result, pulpits appear at all times and in all places (like this article, for example). 

Let’s talk a bit about some of the pitfalls of living almost entirely in an online world. For one, we’re starving for authentic human connection. Zoom, as miraculous as it is, does not replace real-time eye contact, a momentary element of touch (a hug, a slap on the back), or even catch those faint inflections of voice that acknowledge someone is tracking with us (‘um’ or maybe even a muttered ‘Amen!’). No, even if we’ve remembered to log on in the first place, even if connections are easily made and technology doesn’t glitch, online video presence is not the same as real-time human interaction. For one, it’s exhausting for our brains. God might correct me on this, but I don’t think we were created to move as fast as life has been asking us to … and this goes back to the 1990’s and that first insulting cell phone call during dinner, if not significantly before then.

Here’s the thing. Our new Covid-19 world, if you haven’t noticed, is asking us to rethink everything from how we show up at work and family gatherings to how we buy groceries and vote in the most significant election of our lifetimes. Everything is up for grabs. It’s exhilarating and exhausting at the same time. For those of us not deterred by change, we’re in our element, but for most of us (even if we fall in the afore mentioned category) our new environment utterly hijacks our repetitively traumatized brains. It’s too much. We’re quickly reaching our breaking point, collectively.

Which is where my sermon reaches it’s climactic close. Praise be to God, religion matters again!! Wait, you don’t follow? Well, like etiquette, religious dogma isn’t necessarily ‘dogma’ at all. It’s meant, at least in the right context and from the ‘right’ people (by which I mean people intending to bring love to the foreground rather than judgment), to protect us from the brokenness of our world. We are each just small pieces of a huge pie. We’re tiny snowflakes in the midst of a snow storm. We’re that one wave in the midst of the continuous ones that hit our shore each moment and along every body of water we can possibly find (unless it’s a puddle on the front sidewalk, and if the neighborhood 5-year-old is splashing around, even there). And, no matter what metaphor we use, we are here! We are a contributor in this vast beautiful world. And we need to be seen. Let’s do that for each other. Now.

Set Free

This sermon was preached at Second Presbyterian Church on April 22, 2018

Read Acts 16:16-34

I grew up in the 1970s when Free to Be You and Me 

— the book, the movie, the song — was released.  

For those of you not raised (or raising children) at that time, 

Free to Be You and Me was a children’s entertainment project

involving actors like Alan Alda, Carol Channing, Michael Jackson, Jack Cassidy, Diana Ross.

The opening scene of the ABC special starts with two infants,

puppets, arguing over which one is a boy and which one is a girl.

The boy baby points out that the girl is bald

and wants to be a firefighter when she grows up,

and so she clearly is a boy.

He is similarly convinced that he is a ‘she,’

because he has dainty baby feet and wants to be cocktail waitress.

The point of the program was to highlight gender biases

and advocate for an acceptance of one’s natural identity,

free of any heavy-handed cultural expectations. 

The seventies were a time of societal change.

The Civil Rights Act had passed,

women were beginning to shatter the proverbial glass ceiling

(that invisible but solid barrier to top management and leadership).

This was a time when any personal attributes

that might keep someone from successfully pursuing their dreams

were starting to loosen their grip,

or at least that is what we wanted to believe.

In many ways, our current American climate

is demonstrating the cracks in those ambitions —

the many ways gender, race, and other characteristics

still put parameters on our lives.

Black Lives Matter, the Me-Too Movement,

teens leading rallies to demand gun control laws —

all these things are loudly exposing the ways in which our culture,

like most, limits the freedom of various populations in our country.

It’s nice to think that we’re a melting pot,

that the American dream is available to anyone willing to work for it.

But in reality, some people have a leg up on such pursuits

and others have obstacle after obstacle in their way.

This, of course, is nothing new. 

Look at the scripture from Acts that we just read.

Here we have a slave girl being financially exploited

by her owners because of her fortune-telling ability.

We have a couple of men,

presumably white men or the equivalent thereof in our time and culture,

Roman citizens, being attacked for also being Jews

and thus not as pure-bred as the citizens of Philippi would like.

We even have a jailer,

a man trusted with keys to the local prison,

who nonetheless is locked up himself by expectations so heavy

that suicide seems preferable to having to admit he was unable

to uphold his professional responsibilities. 

Is anyone, then or now, really free to be

all of who they are, in all their fullness?

It certainly doesn’t appear so.

And yet, that is only the view seen without looking through the lens

of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Towards the end of this wild combination of biblical stories

relaying themes of slavery, exploitation, accusation, anger, and natural disasters,

the jailer asks a very familiar question,

even though I often think it sounds strange to our ears —

what do I need to do to be saved? 

Certainly, as Christians, we’ve heard this question many times before,

but what really does that mean?

Saved from what?  

We know the answer,

the ‘Who it is’ that does the saving.

Hopefully, Jesus is a big part of why we gather here week after week.

But what is it he saves us from, and how does he do it?

Some of you may be scratching your head right now, thinking,

“Wait a minute, one of the pastors here at Second doesn’t know what it means to be saved?

Oh, dear God, save us now!”

But, I’m pretty certain there are at least a few souls here

who are quietly saying, “Amen, sister!

Thanks for asking the question I’ve been too afraid to ask my whole life.”

Anyone in those shoes would probably consider themselves a good solid Christian,

and yet might find themselves a little uncomfortable

if someone sidled up next to them

and asked if they’d been saved by Jesus Christ.

Obviously, you know the answer,

but if the person looks at you with that look

that demands a little explanation,

a little proof,

you’d likely prefer run for the hills

than get into a deep theological conversation.

Can I have an amen? 

“What do I have to do to be saved?” asked the jailer.

In this particular story, the question doesn’t come across quite so obtuse.

The man is about to take his life,

so obviously he needs some saving.

In our vernacular, he might be asking,

“What do I need to do to survive this mess that I’m in?”

Now, that is a clear question,

and the answer seems not only clear and easy,

but very sensible as well. 

“You aren’t going to save yourself from this mess.

Only Jesus can help you on this one.

Put your trust in him, and maybe you stand a chance.

An earthquake shook the foundations of your workplace,

allowing all your direct reports the opportunity to escape,

and you are paid the big bucks to secure the place.

Yes, you are in over your head on this one,

so you might want to pray to the One who can help you most —

you know, the guy who turns water into wine and raises dead people,

the one who inspired Paul and Silas to sing hymns in the dark jail at midnight

as if in a drunken serenade.

Yes, that man could probably help you,

and he’s the only one who really can.” 

What do you need saving from?

What mess are you in?

Maybe one of your own making,

maybe one you cannot see how you could have possibly avoided.

Is it a health scare?

Relationship woes?

Work insecurity?

Maybe it’s not necessarily a mess,

but merely a scary unknown.

Are you graduating from high school and headed out into the world

in a new way for the first time?

Hopefully our high school seniors find this occasion largely exciting and even freeing,

but the shadow side likely exists also,

as it does for all of us,

no matter what big transition we might be facing.

It’s probably not advantageous to dwell on those worries,

but refusing to acknowledge them might invite them

to make long, dark shadows indeed.

If you’ve ever taken a stress inventory,

getting married or having a baby is right alongside

getting divorced or suffering the death of a loved one

on the stress scales.

Change — even if you consider it good change

and an invitation to experience more freedom,

a virtue almost everyone would stand hand-to-hand to support —

change and freedom create stress,

just like the harder stuff of life. 

Reflecting back on Free to Be You and Me,

there’s plenty that we can do as individuals and a community.

We are called as co-creators with God on this journey called life.

Commencement addresses at graduations are notorious

for encouraging action, strengthening resolve, and

demonstrating that staying the course when the going gets tough is well worth it.

I ran across an ad the other day that said

“a diamond is a piece of coal that stuck to the job.”

In spite of such helpful, uplifting inspiration,

at the end of the day or the season,

when your world is shaking apart,

unraveling at the seams,

there is one saving force above all,

and his name is Jesus.

He isn’t some abstract, distant, etherial God —

the white-haired grandfather figure in the sky —

well, maybe he is — but even if he is,

he’s also a flesh and blood human being (or he was one),

a man who walked this life journey,

his personal one being no piece of cake,

just like yours and mine.

And, He took all this on by choice,

agreeing to limit his divinity within the confines of our human dimension.

He cried, he laughed, he loved.

Sometimes he was the life of the party;

at other times he put hermits to shame.

He gets you, inside and out.

And in those moments when you doubt, say the prayer,

“Help me overcome my unbelief,”

and then listen for the still small voice of his Holy Spirit,

the gift he left you,

so that you would never feel alone.

Yes, Jesus saves.

Believing in him will set you free. 

Thanks be to God. 

For a little inspiration, watch and listen to Pharrell Williams’ Freedom video. Then play it again and DANCE!!!!

Stepping Into God’s Light

This sermon was preached at Second Presbyterian Church on January 28, 2018

Read John 3:1-21

We have a lot of new life, a lot of births happening around here lately.

Have you noticed?

For one, we just celebrated two baptisms,

welcoming the Forest twins into our church family.

Baptism is, of course, the sign of birth

that is not of flesh and blood

but that comes as a gift from above,

the sign of God’s new covenant with us through Jesus Christ.

We Presbyterians baptize infants and young children

as a way of celebrating that God cleans us, giving us new birth through the Holy Spirit

long before we have any capacity to understand the power

of that amazing claim in our lives.

Today’s baptisms are not the first ones this year,

and they will not be the last ones for very long,

as we have several more scheduled in February and March.

One church member,

a woman just a tad beyond childbearing years,

informed me that she was refusing to drink the water around here

for fear of joining the joyous trend of new births. 

But it is not just the birth of babies that is happening around here.

We are also birthing new ways of being community together.

Immediately after worship this morning,

you will be electing a new board of deacons.

Those 30 beautiful faces in your bulletin today are our nominations.

These folks will help us find fresh ways of being connected

and caring for one another.

You will also be electing a new nominating committee

so that we can continue to birth new lay leaders in 2018.

One could even say at this point in January

that we are eagerly awaiting signs of new birth in our natural world.

February 2 is Groundhog Day,

and while yesterday’s rain and gray skies may have been a bit dreary,

we might hope for the same weather again this coming Friday

so that that little critter in Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania,

does not see his shadow and thus beckons an early spring.

A friend of mine said this week,

“I’ve been feeling so discouraged as I think we’ve lost our way as a nation,

but my hopefulness was brought back this week,

remembering that we ask a groundhog for his opinion on the transition of seasons.”

Yes, new life is springing up around us here in lots of ways,

and the messengers sometimes come in surprising forms. 

The lead character in our text today, Nicodemus,

often gets a bad rap for being slightly dense.

But he does know well enough to go to a reputable source for some guidance.

I always think of him as coming in the dark of night to Jesus with questions,

which is why it is important to revisit these familiar texts from time to time.

Because when Nicodemus first comes to Jesus, he did not bring a question;

instead he made an announcement,

something you might expect a learned man to do:

“I have seen your miracles, your signs and wonders, and I know that you are from God.

I know who you are.” 

Paraphrasing slightly, Jesus answered him,

“No, actually you don’t.

I guess you saw me supply wine for the wedding feast

and cleanse the temple of those making a business there,

but if you think you can use this evidence to draw logical, rational conclusions,

you are wrong.

If this is your profession of faith,

you do not know what faith is.

Faith involves commitments and risks.

Your sneaking over here in the dark of night to tell me who I am is not faith.

You need to start from scratch and be born from above, my friend.” 

Now the questions begin to roll.

“What on earth are you talking about, Jesus?

How am I supposed to be born after I’ve grown old?

Surely it’s not possible to be born a second time.”

Jesus’ response is something along the lines of,

“Listen, old dogs can learn new tricks, but you have to be open to the idea, Nicodemus,

and I’m not so sure you are.” 

To be fair, Nicodemus has put a lot of effort,

an investment of years, and a lifetime of experience

into becoming an expert as a Pharisee, a Jewish leader.

That’s a lot to let go of,

so it’s not all that hard to understand why he hesitates with a plethora of questions.

I suspect if we’re honest with ourselves, we can relate a bit.

I’m looking at a very educated and talented group of people here.

Being asked to set aside what you know,

what you have nurtured into being,

likely through many years of study and practice,

is no small matter.

Why would we let go of any semblance of control we might have,

or think we have?

As churchgoing folks, we know that our Lord and Savior

allowed himself to be utterly vulnerable,

but that doesn’t mean that we want to exhibit vulnerability ourselves.

It’s hard for most of us to admit we have needs.

Who wants to be seen as weak or incompetent, or lacking in any way?

We want to be self-sufficient!

— But, we need to face reality.

And if we can’t directly, sometimes it catches us by surprise.

A story from my own life might help illuminate this. 

About 15 years ago, I had a hernia surgery and spent 24 hours in a recovery room

with a 90-plus-year-old fellow patient.

She was agitated, calling out to a son I suspected was no longer of this earth.

At one point, she began to cry for a blanket.

The nurses must have been busy, because no one came.

Without thinking, I hopped out of bed to get one for her

and promptly crumped to the floor.

Being in my early thirties,

physically fit and never having undergone a surgery before,

it didn’t occur to me that I might be slightly incapacitated at the moment.

The IV pole I was hooked up to didn’t even clue me in.

I laughed at myself, I think, or rather I may have done my best

to spring back into bed before a nurse came and saw how foolish I had been. 

Being vulnerable is not for the weak of heart.

And yet, it is what our faith calls of us.

One could say that a spiritual journey invites us to continually fall on our faces,

and then get up, brush ourselves off, look sheepishly at God,

and take another step.

This is not a particularly pleasant process;

it’s humbling.

Barbara Brown Taylor, a renowned preacher and Episcopalian priest,

speaks for many of us, I think, when she says,

“If I had to name my disability, I would call it an unwillingness to fall.

This reluctance signals mistrust of the central truth of the Christian gospel—

that life springs from death,

not only at the last but also in the many little deaths along the way.” 

If we live long enough,

or really live fully at all,

there are countless experiences

that call us to let go of the old and embrace the new.

There are big things, like coming to terms with the actual death of a loved one.

Or “adjusting to a new normal” as we used to call it in hospital chaplaincy,

when one has been diagnosed with a chronic illness.

Or weathering a divorce.

Or even welcoming a new baby into our family.

There are also little deaths,

ones that are really quite trivial in the grand scheme of things

but which can disrupt us just the same.

For example, I got up one day this week

and traveled through the damp darkness of predawn city streets

for a 6:00 a.m. yoga class,

only to find that it had been cancelled when I got there.

It’s crazy how much that situation threw me.

I had so perfectly envisioned the way my day was going to go,

and I was thrown for a loop, out in the dark, cold, early morning,

unable to start the day as I had planned and completely at a loss

for what useful thing I could do at 5:45 a.m. 

And so, I invite each of you to consider what might need to die in your life right now.

Not a very pleasant question to consider or ask,

but it is relevant nonetheless.

A friend recently reminded me that everything we say “yes” to,

or allow to be born,

requires saying “no” to something else, allowing it to die.

So what needs to go in your life?

Are you willing to step into God’s light where these things can be revealed?

This requires considerable courage,

as seeing what needs to change is generally pretty uncomfortable.

It might help to hear a new beatitude, thanks to Dr. Michael McGriffy:

“Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape.” 

If we consider all the small gyrations we must do on a daily basis,

much less in the larger seasons of life,

we could say that life is just one adjustment after another.

Flexibility, or being attentive to where the wind blows,

is pretty important and seldom easy.

It might help to recall verse 3:16 in our reading today,

arguably the most well-known verse in the Bible,

the one Martin Luther said was the gospel in a nutshell—

“For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son,

so that everyone who believes in him may not perish, but have eternal life.”

Jesus.

That is the One who holds us in the midst of our many necessary deaths

and continual rebirths.

We are in good hands. 

There is a canvas out in the narthex,

which I invite you to look at as you leave today.

I find that sometimes images speak louder than words.

It’s a photo I took several years ago —

or maybe I should say the Holy Spirit captured it through me

(as I was utterly shocked at the powerful image I saw on my camera screen upon first viewing it).

It’s an image of a man and a little boy holding hands

and walking through a dark tunnel into a blinding light.

For me, it is a reminder that God invites us throughout our life journey to step out in faith — into what sometimes is a blinding, disorienting light —

and grow into the new person God is manifesting in us. 

Will you pray with me?

Gracious God, guide us in the midst of life’s many twists and turns.

Help us trust you as we embrace life,

as we are called to lose certain aspects of our lives,

and invited to step into new resurrected life.

Strengthen us so that we may bravely step out of the shadows into your light,

where we are shown the need to be remade continually in you.

We give thanks for your choice to enter our world,

taking on the limitations of being human and thus being a companion like no other.

In Jesus’ name we pray, amen. 

Seeing as God Sees

This sermon was preached at Second Presbyterian Church on October 22, 2017

Read First Samuel 16:1-13

How would you rate your capacity to see as God sees?

If a 10 is a perfect score,

how many of you by show of hands would give yourself an 8 or above?

Okay, how about a 5 or above?

So, for the rest of you, we’re talking more like a 2 or a 3?

I guess we have some work to do, huh?

You and me both.

I’m not going to promise that you’ll rate yourself a 10 by the end of this message.

In fact, I’m leaving your outcome completely up to the Holy Spirit.

As my father says to me when he wants to be absolved of any responsibility

in a matter, “Good luck with that.” 

Most of us are likely familiar with the story we just read

about King David’s anointing.

With seven older brothers, David isn’t seen

as being even remotely needed at this important meeting with Samuel.

Our human sight knows that the baby of the family is certainly not

going to supersede all of his older brothers

and be called into leadership over them and all of Israel, …

so he’s out tending the sheep.

Maybe his father Jesse insisted that he do so.

Maybe the older brothers passed the baton down the line.

Maybe David said, “Please let me do something productive

rather than go to one of those ceremonial religious services.”

We aren’t told exactly why it is that David is in the field

rather than with his father, brothers, and their important guest Samuel.

We are just told that he is not with them, but is out working. 

Now, if David’s family status, or lack thereof, weren’t enough of a deterrent,

I’d still see David as a curious pick.

Consider how he is introduced in the story.

The only thing we are told about him as he passes before God

is that he has a healthy, glowing, handsome face and beautiful eyes.

These attributes seem like odd things to mention

since God just stressed that outer appearances aren’t the deciding factor.

Remember what we just read?

“The Lord does not see as mortals see;

mortals look on the outward appearance,

but the Lord looks on the heart.”

As a smart person said to me this week,

“God might not look at outward appearances,

but apparently the narrator of this story can’t help him or herself!” 

David is also a curious pick because if God is all knowing,

one would think that David’s eventual foibles —

of which he will have more than a few —

including some relatively grave ones

(he does end up breaking four of the ten commandments, if you recall)

would keep him from being God’s selection. 

But maybe all of this comes from the perspective of human sight

rather than divine sight. 

Upon a bit of reflection,

most of us would probably admit that our failures teach us

as much or more than our successes,

so maybe God is not looking for a perfect king.

Being the flawed and broken people we are,

King David included,

God is going to use each one of us to accomplish good in the world.

What’s interesting,

and ancient audiences might see this more readily than we do,

is that David is already demonstrating his leadership capacity

by being out with the sheep in the first place.

Whether he chose to be there or was strongly encouraged to do so,

he is doing in this moment what God wants him to do on a larger scale—

he’s leading and caring for the flock.

Maybe God’s sight or decision-making isn’t as mysterious as we sometimes think.

David seems a pretty logical choice in this way of thinking.

Select someone who is a natural,

someone who’s already doing the job. 

But even after all this analysis,

it’s quite clear that our plans, our human plans,

are not necessarily aligned with God’s plans.

Have you ever noticed that?

It shows up all throughout this short narrative. 

  • Samuel, a prophet of God, thinks every brother, especially the tall, handsome ones, must be God’s pick. 
  • Jesse, the father of this large pack of brothers, doesn’t think his youngest needs to be in the lineup.
  • I’m pretty sure the brothers didn’t think the baby of the family was going to be selected, … and I suspect David didn’t think so either. 
  • The townspeople, who were terrified by Samuel’s arrival in the first place, asking if he has come peaceably, don’t expect the selection of a new king to be on the agenda for the day, …
  • not to mention King Saul, who certainly wouldn’t have anticipated that he was going to be replaced. 

And so it goes …

No one in this story seems to be clued in to what God is up to.

I wonder if any of this resonates with you?

I must confess that it does for me. 

Most of you know that I arrived here in January of this year.

About a year prior to that,

I said one of my most simple but powerful personal prayers,

and it was simply, “Mercy.”

You see, for several years I had been a solo pastor of a small church in San Francisco.

I was making three-quarters of a pastor’s salary,

whatever that means. 

The Bay Area isn’t the easiest place to have that kind of life,

especially as a single mother,

and so I said, “Mercy. I give up, God. Get me out of this predicament.”

I did the footwork and posted my PIF (Personal Information Form),

as we Presbyterian pastors affectionately call our resumes.

I posted it on Church Connections,

a website that allows churches and pastors to connect,

and it wasn’t all that long before I received a phone call from Henry here,

asking if I might be interested in talking with the call committee about this position. 

The call here felt exceedingly strong to me.

I might even have thought at the time

that I had a pretty good handle on what God was up to.

I had said “Mercy,”

and God was answering.

In some ways, what has unfolded

has been closely aligned with what I would have anticipated, —

with one huge wrinkle —

my 11-year-old son John isn’t here with me.

If God had asked me ahead of time if this would be an acceptable sacrifice,

I would have said unequivocally, “No.”

Unfortunately, God did not ask that question,

or if God did,

I failed to hear it. 

Is it possible for human beings to acquire the capacity to see as God sees?

Will studying the Word help?

I think it will.

Will listening to one’s spiritual elders —

which in my case is a certain 11-year-old boy named John in San Francisco —

will that help?

I think so,

even though neither of us saw this one coming.

How do we align ourselves with God’s plan?

How do we see as God sees? 

In Antoine de Saint-Exupery’s story, The Little Prince,

the fox who has a relatively small but very important role,

tells the Little Prince a secret.

He says it is a very simple secret, which is that

“It is only with the heart that one can see rightly.

What is essential is invisible to the eye.” 

Now, as an artist drawn to the beauty around me,

I don’t so much want to discount what my eyes see.

And as a pastor, I want to think that I do see with the heart.

So, in my way of thinking,

it would seem that using all one’s available faculties would be wise —

and maybe that is part of the challenge.

As finite human beings, we can’t see the whole picture.

We can’t know why one person succumbs to addiction and another recovers.

We can’t understand why some of our loved ones end up dying from cancer

and others live long, healthy lives.

It’s hard to comprehend how one house could burn up

in the wildfires surrounding Napa, California

and another would be spared.

Those of us who do our best to walk humbly with our God

probably struggle to understand why it is that our world

is such a broken and flawed place so much of the time. 

Maybe our goal should not be to see how God sees.

Maybe our goal needs to be to learn to trust the One who loves us,

the One who loves each and every one of us —

with a love that is beyond description —

with a love that is eternal —

with a love that no person and no thing in this world can ever take away. 

Maybe the call is to be like Christ in the Garden of Gethsemane.

To ask God to hear our prayers;

to ask God to know our desires;

to ask God to keep our best interests at heart;

BUT ultimately to work in our lives powerfully —

and in a way that will accomplish what God wishes to manifest through us.

Maybe our job is to keep looking,

keep anticipating,

that God will make a way where there is no way.

If this is the task, then we are truly quite fortunate,

because we live on this side of the resurrection.

If God did that once, who are we to think that God won’t do it again?

Our task, it seems, is to look for those little resurrections in our lives

and the lives of those we love,

because God is good

and we aren’t in this alone. 

Thanks be to God.

The Little Ones may not look like they know what they are doing, but pay close attention, … they really, most often, do. (Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.”)