Here we are on the eve of Mother’s Day weekend. It’s about as American as apple pie … celebrating mothers. Then again, it’s fraught with turmoil. There are the mothers who failed us (just ask my son, John, … and then keep in mind that he’s only 18-years-old and it is his absolute job right now to hate me with a passion. He’ll get over himself, … at least a mom can hope). But that’s just scratching the surface of things. Not for John and me … no, no, no … I’m full of ego, just like the next mom trying to launch a kid into this crazy world of ours right now, but no, I mean the issues with Mother’s Day …
There are the women who wish they were moms, but can’t get pregnant or find their way through the adoption process.
There are the women who are grieving the loss of a child.
There are the women who are mothering another person’s child.
There are the women who are mothering their very own mothers, or their spouse’s mother.
There are the women who have kids, but are sick with worry over who their kids appear to be, … at the moment, at least (it’s the ‘job’ of moms to always hold out deep hope for their littles).
There are the men who have had to be moms for various reasons … those men who resent the heck out of this … and the ones who love it (except for the tragic reality of how damn hard it is to be ‘a mom’).
And, what about those of us who had moms who didn’t live up to who we needed them to be … or maybe worse yet, wanted them to be. Or the moms we loved with all our hearts, but are no longer here with us …
Yes, Mother’s Day is fraught with heavy emotions, … not just light, loving, sweet ones.
Furthermore, our Capitalistic society has capitalized (pun intended) on our emotional fragility around this holiday … insisting that we are a ‘most terrible child’ if we don’t get just the right gift for mom … which is what exactly?!
My personal favorite is the year that John presented me with a quarter and offered to take me out for a pizza dinner … just what every 5-year-old little boy wants to eat and no mother ever wants for Mother’s Day, for God’s sake. Especially after leading worship and preaching at a church that is too small to have a kids’ program so you have to stand up front in of a group of people while holding the Bible over your head as your toddler tries to remove the lapel mic off your robe (of course this is completely a figment of my imagination … it never happened … of course not. My dear, nearly-perfect child would never do that).
Okay, it did happen. And maybe that’s why my sweet son knew he needed to make up for it. I was a single mom and he knew he needed to do something (there was no dear old dad to begrudgingly or otherwise take care of things, so John offered what he had on hand). Well, he’s smart … he had more then 25 cents in his piggy bank, I’m sure, but he’s a shrewd bargainer and his adorable self might just have bought us some pizza from a very tired, single mom waitress who couldn’t resist the cuteness of the whole thing. I mean given different circumstances, I personally would have been all over that.
So, what are we to do, my people?!
Tread lightly, please. Offer kindness. Love each other. Take a ‘long, loving look at the Real’ … which is to say that we could all use a little benefit of the doubt. We’re vestiges of God, with skin on, which makes it a little hard to see how awesome we all really are. Or, if we aren’t awesome on this particular day, or in this particular season, we’re at least trying our best, right? Every last one of us, … with whatever cards we’ve been dealt at the moment. So, give even the ‘idiot-mom,’ the ‘raging-crazy-woman-mom,’ the ‘auntie-who-is-not-the-best-mom-you-ever-could’ve-hoped-for-mom,’ the ‘dad who has a deer-in-the-headlights-look as he tries to be a mom,’and Your-Very-Own-Mom (like her or not, today) … give them all a little love this weekend. You’ll feel better … and so will she/he/them.
That’s what we’ll say in church tomorrow … just some preparation in case you choose to join us. Actually, we’ll pass the Peace (“May the peace be with you”), but that’s a Force too, so it’s kinda one and the same. Sort of.
I just came across a sweet photo of my son and me (see below) … taken about 14 years ago … and it brings me great Peace/Force. John has always been a Force in my life, bringing good luck, joy, strength, and immense peace, … since the very first moment I knew I was pregnant with him. A pretty sweet thing to remember in these waning days of life before the Big Launch (to college, etc. etc.).
John Benjamin Morris announced his arrival in Grand Fashion … my water broke just minutes after I descended the stairs from a chancel in a church after blessing a dear clergy friend as she started a new phase in her ministry. It was an auspicious arrival announcement, and truly things have never been the same … at least for me. I’m so grateful.
I hope this serves as a brief invitation to remember your own beautiful beginnings on this early evening in early spring.
Well, what a day, … what a week, … what a time we’re in. If you follow me (Ha!), it’s been awhile since I’ve chimed in on anything …
I have a friend at church who reminded me recently that it is smart to listen, more then talk. I’ve been binging on music from the musical Hamilton lately and there’s a character in the show that says the same thing to Hamilton … so apparently this is age-old advice (“Talk less, smile more”). I agree, … except that I’m a preacher for a living, so that doesn’t work very well. Lord help me. Lord, help us all.
What are we to do? We’re starving for some positive attention, most of us, anyway, … I think. If we find a kind soul willing to listen, don’t we want to talk? I mean we’re weathering a really crazy world right now. A very crazy world. Extroverts, and introverts too, need to process things a bit with kind, trust-worthy souls … hopefully you have a few in your personal world.
I was talking with a friend the other day on the phone and for some reason I thought of God (you know the old grandfather-type in the sky) and I said I think He’s sitting up there from on high looking down on us like a bunch of ants, or cars (you know, like when you are in an airplane that is descending or ascending and you can make out some ‘individual’ entities). I picture God looking down from above and thinking to Himself (or Herself), “Oh dear God, what have I set into motion by creating these little creatures?! Look at how violently they are crashing into each other! Oh no, what did I do? How can I help? This is a disaster!!”
Well, I (Lisa) can only pray fervently that God has a plan for this … for all of us. I am a minister after all and I do have to have a little faith. I try anyway. Most days.
My beautiful son is 18 years old. It’s a travesty. I hate it … I know he needs to grow up and really I love seeing how amazing he is as a young man, but it’s hard and scary to let a kid go. So, being the feisty mom that I am I reminded him last night that even though he is 18 and even though he is about to move across country and go to college, he still doesn’t know ANYTHING. Like the good young man I raised him to be he said, “Yes, I know, mom.” Of course he knows plenty of things and I know that he knows things that I don’t understand … truth be told he can run circles around me. Well, only physically, but that’s because I have a hip injury from a fall at work … but I won’t go down that rabbit hole.
Truth is … we all need some good friends, a Good God, and a whole heck of a lot of faith if we’re going to make our way though this tight spot we’re in. So hang on friends. And look for friends anywhere they might come. Just look at these cuties I met along my drive home yesterday. Notice their eagerness, and dare I say wisdom? They know they need connection. Maybe they think I have food, … but still there’s wisdom in that, right?!
I awoke this morning to the interesting realization that the Christian celebration of Epiphany (on January 6th) is the same day that we in the U.S. are now recognizing the first anniversary of an insurrection attempt on our Capital building (at least half of our country would attest to this anyway). What a very odd pairing of events!
Epiphany might just be my favorite Christian holiday ⌠a âminorâ one, which is less known, because it’s not commercialized. Epiphany is the day when Christians remember a group of Wise Men whose travels to find Godâs promise took them far from home to an unlikely place. They found Him, the Christ child, in a very plain manger. Not only did they have to search diligently to reach Him, but once there, they had to overlook a messy and slightly obstructed view of this Gift, who would forever change the world. Think of a barn full of straw, smelly animals, and a mangy gaggle of shepherds and other local worshippers.
The invitation for followers of Jesus today is the same ⌠to look for Light amidst the darkness that surrounds us daily ⌠Covid, environmental disasters, warring nations, interpersonal violence, and yes, our collective history now includes what happened at the U.S. House of Congress in Washington D.C. on January 6, 2021.
As a clergy woman, I feel itâs my vocational responsibility to look to the big picture as much as I am humanly able, and to extend âgrace and mercyâ as well. This understanding led me to review news stories today from the Left and Right, the Top and Bottom, and all Sides in between. Not entirely surprisingly (now that Iâve been on this faith journey for many decades) the Holy Spirit allowed me to see some truth in the varied opinions of people across this country. For example, as I watched (in horror!) video clips of Americans breaking glass and storming a secularly âsacred spaceâ in our capitol city, I heard a rioter say: âThis country belongs to US, not just YOU!â And it gave me pause. Because, this is true, and biblically aligned. Jesus came to topple the systemic powers of this world, the leaders of which so often forget they are called to serve the common person. On other occasions, many of us âcommonersâ would argue that increasingly our political leaders seem to forget this central call.
Now, Jesus wouldnât condone the violence that erupted a year ago today, but he did understand what would lead people to express themselves in such a way. A human person, much less a community full of them, can only hold so much pain. The Rev. Nadia Boltz Weber expresses this well when she says, “Iâm not saying we should put our heads in the sand, Iâm saying that if your circuits are overwhelmed thereâs a reason and the reason isnât because you are heartless, itâs because there is not a human heart on this planet that can bear all of what is happening right now.”) Jesus knew our human pain ⌠and he helped, time and again, heal that pain by removing obstacles to our individual and collective healing over and over and over again.
So, where does this leave us? I think we have the opportunity to reset our own personal intentions (how fitting, at the start of a new year!). To look for the Light. To be the Light. To welcome the Light in others. This Light can be found âin the words and actions of many who are following Jesus, loving neighbors, and working for reconciliation in a wide array of often-unacknowledged ways. Protecting the vulnerable. Speaking the truth. Befriending the lonely. Listening deeply. Choosing tenderness and compassion. [We] just have to remember where to look,” (quoting the Rev. Christopher Henry, Senior Pastor, Second Presbyterian Church, Indianapolis, Indiana, who inspired much of this article).
The Epiphany story reminds us that in spite of the provocations of a fearful king (King Herod) with terrifyingly violent plans (to murder all infants in Bethlehem in an attempt to get rid of Jesus), the Wise Men kept their eyes on the star. They knew where to look, and they knew how to respond (by refusing to follow Herodâs command to tell him the Christ childâs location, and instead, kept that to themselves and took another road to their remote homes).
Itâs so common these days to ask the question, âAre we doomed?â As an ordained Presbyterian pastor, Iâm vocationally obligated to look for Light. And so I say, âItâs out there ⌠have courage and hope.â These two virtues must go together. It takes courage to remain hopeful. And without hope, it is impossible to speak or act with courage.
For the Wise Men of old seeking Godâs promise, âthe glimmer of a distant hope gave them the courage to journey on, to journey through, to keep looking. For a pastor, the embodied hope of fellow travelers, the sturdiness of ancient words, the beauty of worship, gives courage to embody the call to ministry.
Hope and Courage. Faithâs answers to fear and despair. They insist on a different path forward. A path toward nothing less than the reconciliation of the world.
Keep looking for the Light.
Keep making it more visible and pervasive in your words and in your actions.â
And, remember that the Light of the World is with you today, and always!!
Just a little levity, but Light can be found just about anywhere … if we’re willing to look!
I awoke feeling blue this morning. Itâs a feeling Iâve known plenty in my life, but I found it unexpected when I arose today. Thereâs been a lot of change, even disruption during the last couple of months, but I largely feel hopeful with the ânew thingâ God seems to be doing in my world. âSo why am I blue?â I thought to myself.
I made some tea and lit a candle and meditated on that for a bit. Being receptive to an answer is not generally an easy posture for me to take. Iâm much better at telling God what I need then listening for the still small voice that might be quietly, but fervently, knocking on the door to my heart, or head, or soul. And listening, when it means tending to a tender emotion is all that much more unpleasant. But, itâs necessary. Or so thatâs what everyone says.
My blueness on this particular day seems attached to some unconscious material from my dreams last night, along with a recently broken relationship ⌠oh, and throw in a little family drama ⌠I guess being blue makes some sense. And thatâs about as deep as I care to go being receptive this morning. Itâs a start.
Itâs not uncommon to feel blue during the holiday season, although it is somewhat uncommon to feel safe admitting it to others. With so much red and green gracing our homes, businesses, institutions and shops, blue doesnât seem to fit in (and no I donât mean Hanukkah, although some of my Jewish friends might disagree as Christmas still clearly takes over most of our environments here in America at this time of year).
But blue is actually the liturgical color of Advent. While we often mean that we are sad or grieving when we say we are âblue,â in the Church, blue is the color of hopeful anticipation. This is the time of year when we once again await the arrival of a baby born in a manager, One who will forever turn our world upside down in a most beautiful way.
A quote I canât quite remember and donât know who to attribute to comes to mind ⌠âBut the Word is sad before it is glad.â And it strikes me that this is rather biblical. That first Christmas was likely very blue, in our common nomenclature way of understanding. An unwed pregnant female teen riding a donkey in the cold and dark only to find no room at the inn when she and her fiancĂŠ first arrive at their long awaited destination. I wouldnât have wanted to be Mary that day. Or Jospeh ⌠presumably he walked most of the way, leading a young woman bearing a child he had no part in creating and yet was humbling claiming as family. How uncomfortable is that? It sounds like a pretty interpersonally messy experience, made all the more challenging by a world not welcoming them with warmth and hospitality.
This year, as last, has brought an unbelievable amount of loss to people on a global scale. Many come to this âjoyous time of yearâ feeling almost no joy. Can we admit this when this describes us? Can we allow it in our friends? Or how about that stranger honking at you in the street, or yelling at the cashier? Making room for challenging emotions or the people feeling them is certainly uncomfortable. It requires being vulnerable, trusting those around us, and the God who speaks quietly into our lives and promises to see us through the hard times, just as the good ones. Taking that open stance is risky business. It means being willing to be uncomfortable. Are we willing? Hear an invitation to do so in Rumiâs poem The Guest House:
âThis being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if theyâre a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of itâs furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.â
Can we trust Rumiâs message, heed its call? Can we allow ourselves to be blue if thatâs how we are? Will it help us to do so?
Maybe the Virgin Mary can be our guide. When presented with a reality most unpleasant (sheâs going to bare a child ⌠when sheâs an unmarried child herself ⌠what will her parents say? And Joseph? And the towns people?), she ultimately says, âLet it be. Let it be as you say God. I will accept this new reality, the one I am currently standing in, the one You seem to be presenting me with.â Maybe this is the key ⌠letting be what is and allowing the feeling to pass through us so there is room for new ones within the Inn of our soul.
It’s a universal need, it seems. We can feel it in our bones, if we are paying attention. The Winter Solstice is celebrated in so very many traditions. Dwali, Hannukah, Advent … and it’s movement towards Epiphany. We are in the dark this time of year, and our religious traditions invite us to remember that we aren’t stuck here … the Light is coming. And NOW is the time to celebrate it’s re-entrance!
What does that look like for YOU this year? Something to give thought too, for what we focus on expands, as Abraham’s Law of Attraction promises. We need to condition our eyes to look for it. “Wait for it … WAIT for it,” as a friend of mine often quips. The Light is coming. The availability of Covid vaccines (at least the start of distribution for those deemed most in need)? Your workplace is finally finding it’s rhythm and calling you back to work? The scientifically endorsed idea that we may be able to start towards ‘normal’ (or at least be somewhat beyond the current context of mass susceptibility to the Covid virus) come next fall/winter? What do you look forward to at this time?
You might have to dig deep. You had time to clean out the cupboards and you’re more organized than you ever thought possible? You’ve found, after plenty of kurfluffles, that you actually LIKE hanging out with your teenage children … and more importantly they LIKE hanging out with you? Maybe your priorities are super clear and you’ve had plenty of time to practice saying “NO!” to imagined, unwelcomed invitations?
Look for the light. Wait for it … WAIT for it … here it is!!
2020 has been a very memorable year. It started for me, just 10 days in … with my 50th birthday. I celebrated that evening with a massive crowd of 12 or so friends (I’m an introvert) gathered around food and drink, with love and friendship present in spades. It was a perfect celebration. Initially, I had felt pressured to do something a bit more âgrandâ (skydiving, for example). But in the end, I settled on starting my sixth decade (Yes? Gulp!) with this group of local friends. Just to make the year a bit more splashy, however, I decided that I would also aim to have 50 small parties over the course of the ensuing year (a special dinner with a friend or a weekend away with my sister would count toward this objective and fit my style much better than skydiving, which frankly holds no appeal). RR 2.0 … a reinvention of myself, the Reverend Robechek.
No, no, no. Iâm really not that self-absorbed, I was just setting the context. Actually, RR 2.0 really stands for a second iteration of the great Protestant Reformation, or what I am calling the Religious Reformation 2.0. This is a massive event we are collectively experiencing, but it’s likely to be experienced more like the melting icecaps than the SIP (Station in Place) orders we suddenly faced in March of this year due to the Covid-19 Pandemic. As such, RR 2.0 hasn’t gotten the needed press. But, it should be getting more air time, in my (not always so) humble opinion.
Much like the 2.0 version of the Civil Rights movement this year (a second major attempt at addressing what was started in the 1960s), the 2020 Religious Reformation (RR 2.0) may well further the Reformation of the 1500-1600s, which changed the world in massive ways. That original Reformation started on October 31, 1517, when a German theology professor named Martin Luther nailed 95 Theses to the door of Wittenbergâs Castle Church. His academic rebellion against the Roman Catholic Church (for selling indulgences to poor souls seeking an absolution of sins) became anything but just a heady exchange of differing viewpoints. Iâm not sure I can pinpoint an exact start date for the start of RR 2.0; itâs been blossoming for some time now, and I think we will be experiencing aftershocks for a long time to come.
Take a look at this video by #Ascolta. I find it powerful, mesmerizing, ominous and hopeful. Turn off the lights, increase the screen size on your device and be prepared to be drawn in. Hang with the tough parts ⌠and see where/how you might be called to partner more fully with your Creator (âOur obligations are mutual, just like theyâve always beenâ).
We just celebrated Halloween, All Saints Day, and Dia de los Muertos or All Souls Day. These holidays are marked by remembering our ancestors and all the saints who have gone on ahead of us. We also fell back an hour (due to the end daylight savings time) and entered the darkest part of our year. Of course, 2020 has been rather ominous for more than seven months. Collectively, weâve had quite a time of it as weâve witnessed âlife as we know itâ cease to exist.
A world-wide Covid-19 pandemic, along with the resulting disruptions to nearly every aspect of our lives. Millions of deaths from this virus that none of us knew about less than a year ago. Unthinkable numbers of jobs lost, unemployment and financial despair. Racial injustices that reached a breaking point and sparked thousands of protests across the US and the world. And here we are now, a tragically divided American country facing a very critical national election tomorrow. Many of us are perpetually living at home in our pajamas, with angst and fear as constant companions.
One of my dearest friends used to wear a gold pendant around her neck with the following inscription: Fear is the Absence of Faith. When fear reared its frightful head in her mind, her necklace served as a reminder that faith conquers fear. Always. We might need a regular reminder and a few good friends standing by our sides, but faith, along with its companion love, unfailingly wins. This 2020 All Souls Day marks more than 10 years without Deea at my earthly side. Thankfully, she still hovers pretty close and whispers âhave Faith, not Fearâ when I most need to hear it.
The most repeated phrase in the Bible is ×× ×Ş×¤×× , which if you donât read biblical Hebrew[1] means Fear Not. I think thereâs a very good reason âFear Notâ is repeated so often. Like maybe because fear runs rampant on this Earth, what with illness, famine, environmental disaster, and heartbreak always at someoneâs door, if not at our very own. And so, knowing our human frailties, God and Jesus, along with angels and archangels tell us âFear Notâ over and over and over in scripture.
In an effort to help stamp this important message on our hearts, where Love reigns supreme, I am taking this perfect opportunity to call Heart Full Souls together at the launch of www.heartfullsouls.com. It takes friends (as well as family, villages, towns, cities, organizations, companies, churches, civic groups, and ⌠well, you get the idea) to hold onto our deepest selves in these trying times. Whether you come here full of chutzpah or utterly depleted, may this be a home (albeit a virtual one) for your soul ⌠today and in the weeks, months and years to come!
Love,
Lisa
[1] Lucky for you, this Presbyterian clergywoman had to learn it in seminary
In April 2020, our world plunged into a scramble. For anyone not living in a very remote and deep cave, you know that by April, Americans had been confined to their homes for a number of weeks due to the pandemic. Our unexpected âvacationâ from work came to an end and we had to find ways to get back to business. For those of us fortunate enough to have work easily transferable to an online format, Zoom became our new conference room.
Thankfully, video conferencing platforms had taken a foothold in advance of the pandemic shutdown. But now the need to use this venue exploded exponentially. We all needed to become experts, and fast. Anytime a new routine gets established in such rapid-fire circumstances, challenges inevitably crop up. We canât anticipate the many issues that will arise and commonly agreed upon rules are slow to manifest. Enter poor Zoom etiquette.
Now this may not seem terribly important. After all, Ms. Manners is clearly out of vogue (have you noticed how many of us go to the grocery store in our pajamas? Our standards for professionalism have lowered considerably!). But, etiquette, commonly agreed upon rules, and the like are generally developed for deeper reasons.
You see, in the midst of our explosion of online meetings, weâve failed to notice the many ways that trust, which is critical for relationships, is being eroded at a rapid pace. Beyond the trouble of missed connections, lagging and glitchy video, and forgetting to turn on (or off!) our audio, many of us are employing practices that are getting in the way of trust. Think for a minute about virtual backgrounds (do you trust that you are speaking only to the person you see on your screen?). Or, how does it feel when someoneâs video turns off mid-meeting (are they still there)? What about noticing your colleague multi-tasking when you are in the middle of making a critical presentation (are you and your thoughts not important enough to hold their attention)?
Yes, etiquette has its place. And, so does confession. That may not be a natural segue for you, but as an ordained Presbyterian minister, it is for me. Let me explain.
Since the vast majority of Americans are now âspiritual but not religious,â confession, like so much religious âdogma,â is a âbaby that has been thrown out with the bath water.â I would argue that this is a huge societal problem. Confession is a way to acknowledge our deepest realities. To put voice to matters weâd prefer not utter to ourselves, much less another human being. And to do so without fear of judgment. Or at least, that is what it is designed to do. When your grandmother couldnât talk with your grandfather about something, the natural place for her to go was to her priest or rabbi. Maybe just getting the issue off her chest was enough. Or maybe her pastor offered a thought that helped her step into a necessary conversation.
Now, post-church membership, we take our troubles to our therapist. Most of us no longer live intentionally in a religious community and donât have the benefit of being held by a group larger than our families or friend groups. Sometimes this is a good thing, which is what caused the departure from religious communities in the first place. But, it can also leave us swimming in an overly individualistic society, at times drowning in our own pools of freedom from community.
In a Presbyterian worship service, one of the first things that happens is confession. It is said corporately (all together ⌠a written confession that meets us (as an individual) exactly where we are some weeks, and not so much on others), followed by a period of silence for personal confessions to be prayed by each worshipper. The point is to clear our conscious first. The flow of worship is to
Come as we are.
Acknowledge where we are.
Be forgiven for not being our best selves.
Be reminded how much we are surrounded by God.
Be called to try again to be the people we were created to be, namely individuals that bring love and healing into our world.
Sounds like a decent way to live life, with the intrinsic benefit of building and growing trust ⌠in God, in ourselves, in our families and in work environments. Maybe a new practice of confession would benefit our business circles? Something to consider âŚ
I remember the first time I was sitting at dinner with friends when a progressive friend of mine picked up her gigantic cell phone. I didnât yet have one, not being an early technology adopter, but I did have an opinion about what happened next. My friend answered her phone and proceeded to speak with the person on the other end of the line, rather than forgo the interruption and face the 6 people currently sitting in a restaurant having dinner with her. What?! How rude!!! It struck me then, and often has in the years to come, that we need to establish some new etiquette for our new (at the time) cell-phone reality.
Well, here we are again. Weâre 6 months into transferring most of our professional and personal lives onto video calls ⌠a safeguard in the midst of this Covid-19 environment in which we now live. We werenât prepared, and (chalk it up to the maturity of my now 50 years on the planet), etiquette is actually the least of our worries. We donât have time for such niceties. Now we are dealing with life and death matters, and substance is where it is at. Forget considering whether we are being thoughtful; letâs move on to our communication effectiveness and the resulting impact of our words and actions.
But, maybe etiquette is designed not only to be polite, but also to address deep seated human needs. Like the courtesy of being seen for example, or establishing and nurturing interpersonal trust. Forgive me, but Iâm a preacher, and as a result, pulpits appear at all times and in all places (like this article, for example).
Letâs talk a bit about some of the pitfalls of living almost entirely in an online world. For one, weâre starving for authentic human connection. Zoom, as miraculous as it is, does not replace real-time eye contact, a momentary element of touch (a hug, a slap on the back), or even catch those faint inflections of voice that acknowledge someone is tracking with us (âumâ or maybe even a muttered âAmen!â). No, even if weâve remembered to log on in the first place, even if connections are easily made and technology doesnât glitch, online video presence is not the same as real-time human interaction. For one, itâs exhausting for our brains. God might correct me on this, but I donât think we were created to move as fast as life has been asking us to ⌠and this goes back to the 1990âs and that first insulting cell phone call during dinner, if not significantly before then.
Hereâs the thing. Our new Covid-19 world, if you havenât noticed, is asking us to rethink everything from how we show up at work and family gatherings to how we buy groceries and vote in the most significant election of our lifetimes. Everything is up for grabs. Itâs exhilarating and exhausting at the same time. For those of us not deterred by change, weâre in our element, but for most of us (even if we fall in the afore mentioned category) our new environment utterly hijacks our repetitively traumatized brains. Itâs too much. Weâre quickly reaching our breaking point, collectively.
Which is where my sermon reaches itâs climactic close. Praise be to God, religion matters again!! Wait, you donât follow? Well, like etiquette, religious dogma isnât necessarily âdogmaâ at all. Itâs meant, at least in the right context and from the ârightâ people (by which I mean people intending to bring love to the foreground rather than judgment), to protect us from the brokenness of our world. We are each just small pieces of a huge pie. Weâre tiny snowflakes in the midst of a snow storm. Weâre that one wave in the midst of the continuous ones that hit our shore each moment and along every body of water we can possibly find (unless itâs a puddle on the front sidewalk, and if the neighborhood 5-year-old is splashing around, even there). And, no matter what metaphor we use, we are here! We are a contributor in this vast beautiful world. And we need to be seen. Letâs do that for each other. Now.
We have a lot of new life, a lot of births happening around here lately.
Have you noticed?
For one, we just celebrated two baptisms,
welcoming the Forest twins into our church family.
Baptism is, of course, the sign of birth
that is not of flesh and blood
but that comes as a gift from above,
the sign of Godâs new covenant with us through Jesus Christ.
We Presbyterians baptize infants and young children
as a way of celebrating that God cleans us, giving us new birth through the Holy Spirit
long before we have any capacity to understand the power
of that amazing claim in our lives.
Todayâs baptisms are not the first ones this year,
and they will not be the last ones for very long,
as we have several more scheduled in February and March.
One church member,
a woman just a tad beyond childbearing years,
informed me that she was refusing to drink the water around here
for fear of joining the joyous trend of new births.
But it is not just the birth of babies that is happening around here.
We are also birthing new ways of being community together.
Immediately after worship this morning,
you will be electing a new board of deacons.
Those 30 beautiful faces in your bulletin today are our nominations.
These folks will help us find fresh ways of being connected
and caring for one another.
You will also be electing a new nominating committee
so that we can continue to birth new lay leaders in 2018.
One could even say at this point in January
that we are eagerly awaiting signs of new birth in our natural world.
February 2 is Groundhog Day,
and while yesterdayâs rain and gray skies may have been a bit dreary,
we might hope for the same weather again this coming Friday
so that that little critter in Punxsutawney, Pennsylvania,
does not see his shadow and thus beckons an early spring.
A friend of mine said this week,
âIâve been feeling so discouraged as I think weâve lost our way as a nation,
but my hopefulness was brought back this week,
remembering that we ask a groundhog for his opinion on the transition of seasons.â
Yes, new life is springing up around us here in lots of ways,
and the messengers sometimes come in surprising forms.
The lead character in our text today, Nicodemus,
often gets a bad rap for being slightly dense.
But he does know well enough to go to a reputable source for some guidance.
I always think of him as coming in the dark of night to Jesus with questions,
which is why it is important to revisit these familiar texts from time to time.
Because when Nicodemus first comes to Jesus, he did not bring a question;
instead he made an announcement,
something you might expect a learned man to do:
âI have seen your miracles, your signs and wonders, and I know that you are from God.
I know who you are.â
Paraphrasing slightly, Jesus answered him,
âNo, actually you donât.
I guess you saw me supply wine for the wedding feast
and cleanse the temple of those making a business there,
but if you think you can use this evidence to draw logical, rational conclusions,
you are wrong.
If this is your profession of faith,
you do not know what faith is.
Faith involves commitments and risks.
Your sneaking over here in the dark of night to tell me who I am is not faith.
You need to start from scratch and be born from above, my friend.â
Now the questions begin to roll.
âWhat on earth are you talking about, Jesus?
How am I supposed to be born after Iâve grown old?
Surely itâs not possible to be born a second time.â
Jesusâ response is something along the lines of,
âListen, old dogs can learn new tricks, but you have to be open to the idea, Nicodemus,
and Iâm not so sure you are.â
To be fair, Nicodemus has put a lot of effort,
an investment of years, and a lifetime of experience
into becoming an expert as a Pharisee, a Jewish leader.
Thatâs a lot to let go of,
so itâs not all that hard to understand why he hesitates with a plethora of questions.
I suspect if weâre honest with ourselves, we can relate a bit.
Iâm looking at a very educated and talented group of people here.
Being asked to set aside what you know,
what you have nurtured into being,
likely through many years of study and practice,
is no small matter.
Why would we let go of any semblance of control we might have,
or think we have?
As churchgoing folks, we know that our Lord and Savior
allowed himself to be utterly vulnerable,
but that doesnât mean that we want to exhibit vulnerability ourselves.
Itâs hard for most of us to admit we have needs.
Who wants to be seen as weak or incompetent, or lacking in any way?
We want to be self-sufficient!
â But, we need to face reality.
And if we canât directly, sometimes it catches us by surprise.
A story from my own life might help illuminate this.
About 15 years ago, I had a hernia surgery and spent 24 hours in a recovery room
with a 90-plus-year-old fellow patient.
She was agitated, calling out to a son I suspected was no longer of this earth.
At one point, she began to cry for a blanket.
The nurses must have been busy, because no one came.
Without thinking, I hopped out of bed to get one for her
and promptly crumped to the floor.
Being in my early thirties,
physically fit and never having undergone a surgery before,
it didnât occur to me that I might be slightly incapacitated at the moment.
The IV pole I was hooked up to didnât even clue me in.
I laughed at myself, I think, or rather I may have done my best
to spring back into bed before a nurse came and saw how foolish I had been.
Being vulnerable is not for the weak of heart.
And yet, it is what our faith calls of us.
One could say that a spiritual journey invites us to continually fall on our faces,
and then get up, brush ourselves off, look sheepishly at God,
and take another step.
This is not a particularly pleasant process;
itâs humbling.
Barbara Brown Taylor, a renowned preacher and Episcopalian priest,
speaks for many of us, I think, when she says,
âIf I had to name my disability, I would call it an unwillingness to fall.
This reluctance signals mistrust of the central truth of the Christian gospelâ
that life springs from death,
not only at the last but also in the many little deaths along the way.â
If we live long enough,
or really live fully at all,
there are countless experiences
that call us to let go of the old and embrace the new.
There are big things, like coming to terms with the actual death of a loved one.
Or âadjusting to a new normalâ as we used to call it in hospital chaplaincy,
when one has been diagnosed with a chronic illness.
Or weathering a divorce.
Or even welcoming a new baby into our family.
There are also little deaths,
ones that are really quite trivial in the grand scheme of things
but which can disrupt us just the same.
For example, I got up one day this week
and traveled through the damp darkness of predawn city streets
for a 6:00 a.m. yoga class,
only to find that it had been cancelled when I got there.
Itâs crazy how much that situation threw me.
I had so perfectly envisioned the way my day was going to go,
and I was thrown for a loop, out in the dark, cold, early morning,
unable to start the day as I had planned and completely at a loss
for what useful thing I could do at 5:45 a.m.
And so, I invite each of you to consider what might need to die in your life right now.
Not a very pleasant question to consider or ask,
but it is relevant nonetheless.
A friend recently reminded me that everything we say âyesâ to,
or allow to be born,
requires saying ânoâ to something else, allowing it to die.
So what needs to go in your life?
Are you willing to step into Godâs light where these things can be revealed?
This requires considerable courage,
as seeing what needs to change is generally pretty uncomfortable.
It might help to hear a new beatitude, thanks to Dr. Michael McGriffy:
âBlessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape.â
If we consider all the small gyrations we must do on a daily basis,
much less in the larger seasons of life,
we could say that life is just one adjustment after another.
Flexibility, or being attentive to where the wind blows,
is pretty important and seldom easy.
It might help to recall verse 3:16 in our reading today,
arguably the most well-known verse in the Bible,
the one Martin Luther said was the gospel in a nutshellâ
âFor God so loved the world that he gave his only Son,
so that everyone who believes in him may not perish, but have eternal life.â
Jesus.
That is the One who holds us in the midst of our many necessary deaths
and continual rebirths.
We are in good hands.
There is a canvas out in the narthex,
which I invite you to look at as you leave today.
I find that sometimes images speak louder than words.
Itâs a photo I took several years ago â
or maybe I should say the Holy Spirit captured it through me
(as I was utterly shocked at the powerful image I saw on my camera screen upon first viewing it).
Itâs an image of a man and a little boy holding hands
and walking through a dark tunnel into a blinding light.
For me, it is a reminder that God invites us throughout our life journey to step out in faith â into what sometimes is a blinding, disorienting light â
and grow into the new person God is manifesting in us.
Will you pray with me?
Gracious God, guide us in the midst of lifeâs many twists and turns.
Help us trust you as we embrace life,
as we are called to lose certain aspects of our lives,
and invited to step into new resurrected life.
Strengthen us so that we may bravely step out of the shadows into your light,
where we are shown the need to be remade continually in you.
We give thanks for your choice to enter our world,
taking on the limitations of being human and thus being a companion like no other.
How would you rate your capacity to see as God sees?
If a 10 is a perfect score,
how many of you by show of hands would give yourself an 8 or above?
Okay, how about a 5 or above?
So, for the rest of you, weâre talking more like a 2 or a 3?
I guess we have some work to do, huh?
You and me both.
Iâm not going to promise that youâll rate yourself a 10 by the end of this message.
In fact, Iâm leaving your outcome completely up to the Holy Spirit.
As my father says to me when he wants to be absolved of any responsibility
in a matter, âGood luck with that.âÂ
Most of us are likely familiar with the story we just read
about King Davidâs anointing.
With seven older brothers, David isnât seen
as being even remotely needed at this important meeting with Samuel.
Our human sight knows that the baby of the family is certainly not
going to supersede all of his older brothers
and be called into leadership over them and all of Israel, âŚ
so heâs out tending the sheep.
Maybe his father Jesse insisted that he do so.
Maybe the older brothers passed the baton down the line.
Maybe David said, âPlease let me do something productive
rather than go to one of those ceremonial religious services.â
We arenât told exactly why it is that David is in the field
rather than with his father, brothers, and their important guest Samuel.
We are just told that he is not with them, but is out working.Â
Now, if Davidâs family status, or lack thereof, werenât enough of a deterrent,
Iâd still see David as a curious pick.
Consider how he is introduced in the story.
The only thing we are told about him as he passes before God
is that he has a healthy, glowing, handsome face and beautiful eyes.
These attributes seem like odd things to mention
since God just stressed that outer appearances arenât the deciding factor.
Remember what we just read?
âThe Lord does not see as mortals see;
mortals look on the outward appearance,
but the Lord looks on the heart.â
As a smart person said to me this week,
âGod might not look at outward appearances,
but apparently the narrator of this story canât help him or herself!âÂ
David is also a curious pick because if God is all knowing,
one would think that Davidâs eventual foibles â
of which he will have more than a few â
including some relatively grave ones
(he does end up breaking four of the ten commandments, if you recall)
would keep him from being Godâs selection.Â
But maybe all of this comes from the perspective of human sight
rather than divine sight.Â
Upon a bit of reflection,
most of us would probably admit that our failures teach us
as much or more than our successes,
so maybe God is not looking for a perfect king.
Being the flawed and broken people we are,
King David included,
God is going to use each one of us to accomplish good in the world.
Whatâs interesting,
and ancient audiences might see this more readily than we do,
is that David is already demonstrating his leadership capacity
by being out with the sheep in the first place.
Whether he chose to be there or was strongly encouraged to do so,
he is doing in this moment what God wants him to do on a larger scaleâ
heâs leading and caring for the flock.
Maybe Godâs sight or decision-making isnât as mysterious as we sometimes think.
David seems a pretty logical choice in this way of thinking.
Select someone who is a natural,
someone whoâs already doing the job.Â
But even after all this analysis,
itâs quite clear that our plans, our human plans,
are not necessarily aligned with Godâs plans.
Have you ever noticed that?
It shows up all throughout this short narrative.Â
Samuel, a prophet of God, thinks every brother, especially the tall, handsome ones, must be Godâs pick.Â
Jesse, the father of this large pack of brothers, doesnât think his youngest needs to be in the lineup.
Iâm pretty sure the brothers didnât think the baby of the family was going to be selected, ⌠and I suspect David didnât think so either.
The townspeople, who were terrified by Samuelâs arrival in the first place, asking if he has come peaceably, donât expect the selection of a new king to be on the agenda for the day, âŚ
not to mention King Saul, who certainly wouldnât have anticipated that he was going to be replaced.
And so it goes âŚ
No one in this story seems to be clued in to what God is up to.
I wonder if any of this resonates with you?
I must confess that it does for me.Â
Most of you know that I arrived here in January of this year.
About a year prior to that,
I said one of my most simple but powerful personal prayers,
and it was simply, âMercy.â
You see, for several years I had been a solo pastor of a small church in San Francisco.
I was making three-quarters of a pastorâs salary,
whatever that means.Â
The Bay Area isnât the easiest place to have that kind of life,
especially as a single mother,
and so I said, âMercy. I give up, God. Get me out of this predicament.â
I did the footwork and posted my PIF (Personal Information Form),
as we Presbyterian pastors affectionately call our resumes.
I posted it on Church Connections,
a website that allows churches and pastors to connect,
and it wasnât all that long before I received a phone call from Henry here,
asking if I might be interested in talking with the call committee about this position.Â
The call here felt exceedingly strong to me.
I might even have thought at the time
that I had a pretty good handle on what God was up to.
I had said âMercy,â
and God was answering.
In some ways, what has unfolded
has been closely aligned with what I would have anticipated, â
with one huge wrinkle â
my 11-year-old son John isnât here with me.
If God had asked me ahead of time if this would be an acceptable sacrifice,
I would have said unequivocally, âNo.â
Unfortunately, God did not ask that question,
or if God did,
I failed to hear it.Â
Is it possible for human beings to acquire the capacity to see as God sees?
Will studying the Word help?
I think it will.
Will listening to oneâs spiritual elders â
which in my case is a certain 11-year-old boy named John in San Francisco â
will that help?
I think so,
even though neither of us saw this one coming.
How do we align ourselves with Godâs plan?
How do we see as God sees?Â
In Antoine de Saint-Exuperyâs story, The Little Prince,
the fox who has a relatively small but very important role,
tells the Little Prince a secret.
He says it is a very simple secret, which is that
âIt is only with the heart that one can see rightly.
What is essential is invisible to the eye.âÂ
Now, as an artist drawn to the beauty around me,
I donât so much want to discount what my eyes see.
And as a pastor, I want to think that I do see with the heart.
So, in my way of thinking,
it would seem that using all oneâs available faculties would be wise â
and maybe that is part of the challenge.
As finite human beings, we canât see the whole picture.
We canât know why one person succumbs to addiction and another recovers.
We canât understand why some of our loved ones end up dying from cancer
and others live long, healthy lives.
Itâs hard to comprehend how one house could burn up
in the wildfires surrounding Napa, California
and another would be spared.
Those of us who do our best to walk humbly with our God
probably struggle to understand why it is that our world
is such a broken and flawed place so much of the time.Â
Maybe our goal should not be to see how God sees.
Maybe our goal needs to be to learn to trust the One who loves us,
the One who loves each and every one of us â
with a love that is beyond description â
with a love that is eternal â
with a love that no person and no thing in this world can ever take away.Â
Maybe the call is to be like Christ in the Garden of Gethsemane.
To ask God to hear our prayers;
to ask God to know our desires;
to ask God to keep our best interests at heart;
BUT ultimately to work in our lives powerfully â
and in a way that will accomplish what God wishes to manifest through us.
Maybe our job is to keep looking,
keep anticipating,
that God will make a way where there is no way.
If this is the task, then we are truly quite fortunate,
because we live on this side of the resurrection.
If God did that once, who are we to think that God wonât do it again?
Our task, it seems, is to look for those little resurrections in our lives
and the lives of those we love,
because God is good
and we arenât in this alone.Â
Thanks be to God.
The Little Ones may not look like they know what they are doing, but pay close attention, … they really, most often, do. (Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.”)